What is a coach?
A coach is not a teacher or a master to be obeyed without thinking. They don't
have all the answers, or need to know everything that there is to know. They
are on your side, drawing out from you the resources you need to achieve and
go beyond your goals.
There is a well known film, perhaps you've seen it, called Karate Kid. In
it a young boy comes is taken under the wing of a Karate master, after he
is bullied. The master asks him "If you will do everything I ask, I will
teach you karate". The boy agrees and promises to do what he is told
The master then gives him a bucket and cloth, and asks
him to wash some dirty cars.
The boy looks confused, hurt even, but then gets on with washing the cars,
in a normal sloppy manner. The master comes over, and shows him the way he
wants the car washed, in fluid circles. The boy learns this and practises,
still confused.Night falls, and the boy goes home having learnt no Karate,
but comes back the next day.
The boy is excited.. today he will learn Karate, and arrives
to be given a
paint brush and paint, and is told to paint the fence. The boy is confused,
but slowly begins. The master stops him "No No No", and shows him
a specifc fluid way to paint
the fence, in long vertical moves up and down. The boy continues and for the
rest of the day, paints the fence. Nigth falls, and he goes home, sore and
tired, again having learnt no Karate.
He comes back, really excited that he is know going to
learn karate at last. The master greets him and gives him sanders to sand
the floor. The boy is shocked, and confused.
But groaning, begins to sand the floor. Again, he is stopped and shown a different
way to sand the floor, in fluid, inner movements. The day is hot, and he works
hard all day, and by nightfall he is done for.
The master comes to say goodbye, and as he does the boy
loses it. He says, "I came to learn Karate, not work errands for you."
The boy walks away.... it's over....... the master stops him and calls him
The master makes him go through the moves of wash the
car, paint the fence, and sand the floor. Then he goes to strike the boy punching
to the head. The boy blocks. He kicks, again the boy blocks. A flurry of punches
and kicks, and again the boy blocks. The boy knows karate.
The boy is surprised, how did he learn karate? In the
movements, exercises, and conditioning of the errands and also in the detail
of how they were done.
So when would you have stopped? On the first day, the
second, the third?
Strange how so quickly forgotten our promise "to do what you ask"
A coach may ask you to do things, you don't always understand.
You must trust that they have your best interests. You must try on their suggestions
or actions, otherwise, the coach can only take you so far.
If you understand, and would like a coach, get in touch
and see what can be.